Happy Chinese New Year

It's the year of Ox... Every good things will happen this year... Our share market will charge like a bull, we will be as strong as an Ox, as wealthy (productive) as a cow ( I mean dairy cow)....

Anyway, I'll be away to Alor Setar (new name for Alor Star), from 23rd till 30th for CNY, this will be my 1st Chinese New Year spend in Alor Setar.

I remembered when I was in Melaka studying and in Penang working... during this period, when I wanna go home for Chinese New Year, I'll be very excited... Sometimes to the extend that I couldn't sleep well...

And now, it's SyinNi's turn. I'm not sure whether she'll have a nice sleep... but since 2 weeks ago, she keeps on telling me the same thing, that she's going home... She misses this food, that food, duck porrage, loh mee, cha kuew teow, hee mee, tom yam, petai, kangkong belacan, list go on and on....

But from what I experienced, SyinNi misses more than just food... She misses the family reunion... I will try to take care of our baby as much as possible and let her have more of her time... Happy Chinese New Year...

Undivided love

When I was young, my younger brother used to tell my mum how unfair she treated him, that he thinks my parents love me more, that he had to go for tuition and I don't have, that I can have normal milk when he can't (because he had lactose intolerance), the list of complain just keeps going longer.... And my mum will be very annoyed with that... The thing I learn was, not to compare what your siblings have or your parents will get angry... I never understand the logic behind...

Well, I'm a father to a 9 months plus boy now and will have another child soon this year... I put myself in my parents' shoes that when my children compare and complain among themselves. Then I realize that I will be very upset too...

The reason I found out is that there's no 50-50 divided love. Love is not "calculate-able" (hehe, sorry for the rojak english)... I will love my son whole heartedly, I will love my 2nd child whole heartedly, and I will love my wife whole heartedly. I will do whatever I can to love them whole heartedly. Just that each person has different need, SyinNi needs me to be more attentive to her needs, baby Joel needs more playing time, and our future baby will most probably needs more milk. To say I love anyone in 33-33-33 percent will mean that I only have limited love for them.

I think to tell your parents that they sided or care for other siblings more is just wrong, terribly wrong... You'll know the logic if you think deeper, or when you are a parent yourself.

What love really is

I've again read through my previous post in friendster. Just wanna keep it posted here to remind myself of this post.

Recently SyinNi and I went to Pre-marriage course, the facilitator throw us a question, what is Love. Then I start thinking, what is LOVE, is it the heart bumping feeling? Is it the ‘butterfly in stomach’ feeling? Then I ask myself, how do I love SyinNi?

I’m patient to her, I share everything with her, I do not envy what she has achieve or what she has, I take care of her, I am supportive to everything that is good for SyinNi, I want her to be happy. So what do these all mean?

LOVE is not just a feeling, it’s a decision, to be thoughtful of your partner, to be forgiving, to make your partner happy, to take care of your partner. Yeah, everyone knows that, but what keeps us from doing that? Or what keeps us from doing better than what we’ve done? I, me, ego, self-center ….

I always ask SyinNi, how much do you think I love you, she would say, "Very very very much." And I would say, "But I’ve not done enough." I want to love her more, in saying so, what I really mean was I want to change myself, to have a smaller me and bigger SyinNi.

I’ve seen many cases where loving couple break up, and they turn up being enemies. I’ve also seen cases where after break up, 1 party keeps on bugging the other, ‘just’ to become ‘friends’ or should I say to ‘beg’ for love.

I am not saying that they are wrong in keeping the one that they think is the right person. I’m saying that you should let your partner decide what is best for himself or herself. If his or her decision hurts, unfair to you and you think that he or she is self centered, selfish and never think of you, forgive them. Shouldn’t that love is? Give everything that is best for your love one, forget his or her wrong-doings. Even if it hurts you so much.

If you tell me that you can’t even do the very simple thing of love. Then it means you do not have love for him or her at all.

But why??? Why there are so many people out there still ‘cling’ on the partner to ‘beg’ for ‘love’ when they don’t really love them? Ego and selfish is the word.

Too often, we are blinded by our ego, we hypnotize ourselves in believing something that is not true. In this case, some people actually hypnotize themselves in believing that they’re so much in love with the other person, just because of ego. They do not like being dumped, they think they have given up a lot, but they do not get appreciated. Hey, stop there, again, we all know that you don’t look for return in love.

Too often, I look around, I see friends suddenly smoke and drink, make their own life miserable. I tell you my friend, deep down inside, you know you should not do that. But why doing that?

It is because of the TV, the show that ‘teach’ us to do that, and that is the thing you should do when you break-up. I’m not saying that you cannot feel sad, every ‘down’ you experience will be rewarded with an ‘up’. If you are drunk, how can you climb ‘up’?

It’s ok to feel sad, but learn something from it, reflect on yourself, there must be something that you’ve not been doing right or have been doing something wrong. Reflect and change, that is the only way to make your time, effort, and sadness worthy.

I’ve always hear this in movie, "Forget him/her." But I always tell people, how to forget someone that has bring you a lot of sweet memories, that has been part of your life? So don’t forget anyone in your life, just remember him/her in a different way, not as boy-friend or girl-friend. But as someone that has been part of your happy life.

Be strong my friend, send your best wishes to the one that you love so much but yet hurt you so much, don’t forget him or her, do not have any trace of hatred, not even a micro-gram(if it’s measurable). It’s not easy to achieve that, love was never meant to be easy. My last advice, prepare the worst, welcome the best.

Environmental problems - Palm oil plantation

There's a lot of environmental problems in Sabah, didn't notice that before I met Mr. Wong. Mr. Wong is an environmental activist based in Lahad Datu.

Before this, I thought that the palm oil plantation is a big plus to the environment, because we are actually planting trees. That's partly true, but the plantation in Sabah and Sarawak is large that it has become a hazard to environment.


First of all, the lands that palm oil plantation takes up can threaten the extinction of Orang Utan and other species of animals. Oil-palm plantations could be responsible for at least half of the observed reduction in orang-utan habitat in the decade between 1992 and 2003. Almost 90 per cent of orang-utan habitat has now disappeared. Some orang-utan populations have been halved in the past 15 years, and from a total remaining population of less than 60,000, an estimated 5,000 are lost each year. If this rate of decline continues the orang-utan will be extinct within 12 years.


Then, there's the problem of carbon dioxide emission due to land clearing for plantations. Biofuels from palm oil actually release less carbon dioxide than fossil fuels when burned. But the land clearinng of rainforest and drained swamps (peat soil) released a lot of carbon dioxide. Rainforest and drained swamps are known to trap carbon in their watery depths for millennia. As the peat has dried, and sometimes burned, it has released huge amounts of carbon dioxide into the atmosphere. Drained peat swamps in Indonesia and Malaysia annually released 2 billion tonnes of carbon between 1997 and last year, an amount roughly equal to 8 per cent of annual global emissions from the burning of fossil fuels.

When canals are dug to drain peat swamps, the peat dries and oxygen combines with the trapped carbon, releasing carbon dioxide to the atmosphere. Because dry peat is extremely flammable, fires frequently erupt on cleared land. In 1997 fires in Indonesia sent smoke billowing throughout South-East Asia and released massive amounts of carbon dioxide.

Do you all remembered few years ago, how the haze from Kalimantan affects us?

To solve the issues, I don't think that by boycotting the palm oil will have impact on it, because other industries will have similar impact.

Recommendations:

1. No forest conversion for oil palm
2. There must be no use of fire for land-clearing
3. Companies operating palm oil plantations must minimise their impact on the environment through good management practices.

• obeying all relevant Government regulations e.g. on emissions of waste-water
• use of integrated pest management
• significant reduction in the use of pesticides and transparency in the amount of pesticides used
• recycling of POME
  

Who will you stay with after I die

John : If I die, will u remarry?
Wife: No! I'll stay with my sister. But if I die will u remarry?
John : No, I'll also stay with your sister.

Big Bro

Big bro means eldest brother. Well, I have 1 younger brother, I guess that makes me a big bro.

I didn't choose to be a big bro, it just happened that God gave this role to me. For me, it's a privilege and a responsibility.

First of all, I think that a big bro should be a 'bridge' between parents and younger siblings. He is a center of peace in a family, he is a role model for his younger siblings.

I personally don't think that I'm qualified as a role model for my younger brother. But I think I should be proud of the level of communication between parents and younger brother.

At least, when there's a problem, parents will talk to me to seek for my opinion, younger brother will share almost everything that he dare not review to our parents. Whenever there's a conflict between parents and younger brother, I act as a peace keeper.

I strongly disagree being too controlling, big bro shouldn't control his younger siblings that much, you may have more experience and do not wish your younger siblings to experience the same bad experience like you did. But that's the only chance they can grow, just be an adviser and tell them what the pros and cons of this situation. Moreover, no one knows how the situation will turn out, bad experience for you might turn out to be a good experience for others.

Oh, 1 more thing, please don't be so calculative to your younger siblings, especially on what they said and in financial wise.

Words are sharper than swords

Words are sharper than swords, in fact swords is made up of SharpWORDS. "S" from sharp and "WORDS".

I've read this story somewhere which I like to share with you.

There was a boy, he was very rude to everyone around him. Everyone in that village didn't like him. One day, his father want him to realize how his words have hurt everyone.

His father proposed to him that everyone he said something that hurts a person, he must nail a nail on the wooden fence outside of his house, once the wooden fence is full of nails he has to return to his father for further instruction..

The boy followed exactly what his father told him to, after 1 year, he found out that the wooden fence is full of nails. Only then, he realized he has hurt many people over the course of 1 year. His father then asked him to plug a nail every time he managed to uphold the word that he knew was going to hurt someone. Again, the boy followed exactly what his father told him.

After 2 years, he finally managed to plug all the nails on the wooden fence. He then go to his father telling his fahter how proud he was. His father then turn to him and say, "Although you managed to plug all the nails from the wooden fence, you still leave a hole on the fence."

Moral of this story: Think before you speak, and be careful with your words, the wound that you caused with your words may always stay.

Malaysia's Education System

I studied my primary school, secondary school and tertiary education in Malaysia. I find that it is not on par to the world education standard.

The problem is, they didn't really allow their student to explore the field they love. The most common word you hear is that, "If you don't study hard, you don't even qualified to collect rubbish"... Well, there's some truth to it, since collect rubbish also need minimum PMR qualification.

But hey, what if I'm really good in drawing??? Or Dancing???

Anyway, I remembered when I was in primary 6, I used to do my homework until 11-12pm... The school wanted to be famous, and they want their students to have good result... Same goes to most of the secondary schools in Malaysia...

When I went for tertiary education in MMU, Melaka. Things turn upside down, you don't need to be working that hard to have ok result, we just have to be better than our fellow darker skin "friends"...

The best University in Malaysia is UM, and UM can't squeeze into Top 200 of world best university. What will happen in the next 20 years? I don't think UM can smell the 200th place's fart...

Parking fine

John went for grocerry shopping, and when he comes back to his car, he finds a note saying "Parking Fine". He then writes another note and sticks it to a pole "Thanks for the complement"...

Now I know why I blog

Well, I review my precious entries in friendster the other day, it brought back some of my memories of how I feel to certain event. I guess that's why blogging is so widely practise nowadays, it served as a channel to express yourself, to 'document' some events, to share point of view and some like kennysia managed to make a living out of it...

The 1st entry I made in friendster blog was, "About a 24 yr old charming guy" and the 1st entry I made here was, "My goodness, I'm 27 years old". It's been 3 years, sounds short term of time, but a lot has been going on. I got married, have a son, now no.2 is on the way...

Of course, sometimes things don't go well for me, just bear with it with an open mind and optimistic heart. What else we can do? Life's short, and my life is perfectly normal. I can't afford to spend time on the 'bumps' on my life. I love my life, I love the high and low, and I think everyone should. Even things don't go well, like what I always said, "Prepare for the worst, welcome the best".

How to strike Toto Mega Jackpot

Well, I'm actually I dreamer, I always dream that I strike a RM20mil Toto Jackpot. I've even come out a plan, if I strike RM20mil, I will donate RM15mil to the needy and church. Then I will only spend RM5mil. Then share RM1mil with family and relatives. Hahaha, dreaming....

I know the odds are very low... I've even have some figure myself. By using simple probability equation of 52 choose 6. The odds to strike a Jackpot is 20,358,520 to 1.

Do you know that there are 24 cases of male breast cancer cases on average in a year? Malaysia's 2008 official population is 27,728,700 let's assume half of them are men, which leave us around 13,864,350 male. The probability of these men can diagnose with breast cancer is 577,681 to 1. So there is 35 times more chances for a man to catch breast cancer that to strike Toto Mega.

What are the chances that if you're playing with a group of four that two of you will get a hole-in-one on the exact same hole? At 17 million to 1, they're better than the chances of you winning the lottery.

According to the fatal accident rate, if you drive 20km to purchase your lottery ticket, it's three to twenty times more likely for you to be killed in a car accident along the way than to win the jackpot.

So how to win it? The secret is to keep on buying the same combination, since the Toto number come out randomly by chance, you'll strike it one day. And you can't strike it this lifetime, pass this number to your son, then your grandson, sooner or later, you'll strike it. Good luck....

World War on the way???

The recent crash between Israel and Palestinian,and recent conflict between India and Pakistan marked the disruption of world peace in 2008. Among these countries, India and Pakistan have their own nuclear weapons, and Israel is widely believed to own nuclear weapons.

Israel felt that they need to show their power to Palestine, and to the neighboring Muslim countries (5 muslim countries surrounded Israel). Palestine may react to protect their own interest, with the help of other muslim countries that surrounded Israel. The tension between theses 2 states might spark a nuclear war if other countries, such as US tries to solve the problem in a hard way.


Well, India and Pakistan, we all know what happened in 2008 with terrorist attack in Mumbai. It's a sad story, people in Mumbai still suffers mentally from what has happened out there. The tension between these 2 countries has already become very tense and if the terrorist attack is not solved, India will point it to Pakistan and the tension will elevate.

There are too many problems in the world, we have future problems that we need to solve now (environmental problem), war between countries, disasters, financial crisis, etc. Most of us that can read this is in a well off financial state compare to people around the world.

Appreciate what you have, "peace of mind" is not something you deserve, but something you have to work for it. And it will only stay with you if you appreciate it. Peace~~~~~~~~~~