When I was young, my younger brother used to tell my mum how unfair she treated him, that he thinks my parents love me more, that he had to go for tuition and I don't have, that I can have normal milk when he can't (because he had lactose intolerance), the list of complain just keeps going longer.... And my mum will be very annoyed with that... The thing I learn was, not to compare what your siblings have or your parents will get angry... I never understand the logic behind...
Well, I'm a father to a 9 months plus boy now and will have another child soon this year... I put myself in my parents' shoes that when my children compare and complain among themselves. Then I realize that I will be very upset too...
The reason I found out is that there's no 50-50 divided love. Love is not "calculate-able" (hehe, sorry for the rojak english)... I will love my son whole heartedly, I will love my 2nd child whole heartedly, and I will love my wife whole heartedly. I will do whatever I can to love them whole heartedly. Just that each person has different need, SyinNi needs me to be more attentive to her needs, baby Joel needs more playing time, and our future baby will most probably needs more milk. To say I love anyone in 33-33-33 percent will mean that I only have limited love for them.
I think to tell your parents that they sided or care for other siblings more is just wrong, terribly wrong... You'll know the logic if you think deeper, or when you are a parent yourself.
Well, I'm a father to a 9 months plus boy now and will have another child soon this year... I put myself in my parents' shoes that when my children compare and complain among themselves. Then I realize that I will be very upset too...
The reason I found out is that there's no 50-50 divided love. Love is not "calculate-able" (hehe, sorry for the rojak english)... I will love my son whole heartedly, I will love my 2nd child whole heartedly, and I will love my wife whole heartedly. I will do whatever I can to love them whole heartedly. Just that each person has different need, SyinNi needs me to be more attentive to her needs, baby Joel needs more playing time, and our future baby will most probably needs more milk. To say I love anyone in 33-33-33 percent will mean that I only have limited love for them.
I think to tell your parents that they sided or care for other siblings more is just wrong, terribly wrong... You'll know the logic if you think deeper, or when you are a parent yourself.
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beloved bro inlaw, u dont love me meh?
ReplyDeletelove.... very very 'tim'.... If you give Joel big big ang pao we whole family love love love lagi...
ReplyDeleteit's true, parents gives undivided love to kids but the most important thing is not to let ur kids feels that u love him less and love his brother more..that's the hardest part i think..
ReplyDeleteYeah, that's the part parents should work out. But we as child should be more considerate to what parents are going through...
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